Dear my timid, introvert and shy friend,
You might not know me, but I am here to tell you to stop playing life in a small way.
Stop living your life right now like it is a dress-rehearsal or in trial mode. You can’t re-do or re-live you toddler years, your teenagers years, your 20s, 30s, 40s and so forth.
Truth to be told, this is the one and only life you’ll have and that you’ll ever have.
I was once like you. Buying clothes that I know will look good on me but I kept them only for special occasions. Yet, I forgot that everyday being alive and given another opportunity to live and breathe and chase my dreams is a special occasion.
I gave out love and compassion to everyone – my family, my friends, strangers I meet freely but the one person who needed love and compassion the most was me. I forgot that I can’t give and love from an empty glass but here I am pouring every last drop of love I have to everyone but to myself.
I was trying so hard to make others happy, smile and laugh that I neglected my best-friend, my soulmate – ME.
In the world where society thrive and applaud for perfection and beautiful people, I got lost in self-doubt, and self-confidence. Because I didn’t value how awesome and beautiful I am, I conceal and masked my authentic self and beauty.
I tried my best to fit in into the society when instead I’ve should have done the opposite – stand out.
Embrace the real Joanne, the one who is sensitive, funny, ambitious, sometimes impatient, often times kind.
I tried so hard to fit in into what society and people near and dear to me wanted me to be that I became unhappy.
My soul, I imagine it to look like the brightest and the most orange-yellow sunflower. And each day I tried to be and morphed into the Joanne what others expected me to be and expected of me, one by one of my beautiful petals – wilted.
For such a long time, my sunflower was not perking up and standing straight and proud but instead it just look wilted, sad, and dying.
To my timid, shy and introverted friends, stop masking and concealing your beauty, your authentic self, your awesomeness.
Stop waiting until you reach a certain period in your life or a certain age to do the things you wanted or to dress nicely or to pamper yourself.
Stop waiting. Period.
I’ve wasted much of my 20s being lost and being a people-pleaser.
This year, I turned 29 and the biggest discovery that I’ve discovered is that everything – success, love, abundance, health, and happiness begin from me and within me.
Stop saying yes if you wanted to say NO.
Stop playing small in life when all you wanted to do is to live big and chase after that dream of yours.
Stop waiting for someone special to love you for you to love yourself. Start to love yourself because the safest bet you can bet on someone is always YOU!
If you have been saving that dress or shirt for some very special occasion, take it out now and wear it today. Today is the special day. Today is the best of your life. Celebrate your life and you everyday!
Sincerely you friend,